I've Got This Friend

"I've got this friend, holding on to her heart, like it's a little secret, like it's all she's got to give." - The Civil Wars

It's been a minute since the last post....sorry! Been hella busy!

.....Sex and the City.....

***Spoil Alert - if you haven't watched the show or movies but you intend to, you may not want to read this, as it might spoil some things.***

I have a series of theories that involve my all-time favorite show that I'll share with you over the next few weeks. The first one being the "Aidan and Big" theory.

Now, this theory will not apply to every woman, but it will to most. If you got married to your high school sweetheart and are still happily in love, then this may not be for you. If you haven't been in at least a few relationships, then this definitely won't apply. But if you are single or were single for a while and have had the chance to date around and have relationships, then hopefully, you can relate. I say "hopefully" because if nobody relates, then my theory is a bust.

Allow me to briefly introduce the characters:

Mr. Big:

Basically, he is Carrie's main love interest throughout all of the seasons and movies....off and on and off and on.....he's a good-looking, arrogant, rich Wall Street guy. He breaks her heart at least 3 times in the series alone and then once more in the first movie. Tells her she not "the one", cheats on her, marries someone else. But she just can't let him go. She keeps waiting for him. He FINALLY (as in, the last episode) comes to his senses about her and magically becomes the man she's been hoping and praying for.

Aiden:

Carrie was immediately attracted to Aiden. He took things very slow - respected her - which threw her for a loop but made him an instant favorite among viewers. He treats her like a queen. He was the cute country boy and a genuine good guy....far too good for Carrie. I say that because she cheats on him with Big. Then she chases after him wanting him back, which he agrees to and eventually they get engaged. But something never feels right about it so Carrie breaks it off and we don't see Aiden again until the second movie when they run into each other randomly and catch up and have an innocent kiss which Big forgives.

It's obvious which guy I wanted her to end up with. Aiden aiden aiden! But what can I say? The heart wants what it wants despite what everyone else prefers or wants for you. You gotta make you happy and let that be the end of it.

But anyways, on to the theory.......

My theory is simple: every girl (who meats the above criteria of having dated for a while) has had both a Big and an Aiden at least once in her life. Maybe they are still present, and maybe not. Maybe you have more than one Big or Aiden. There's a lot of give in this theory, as it obviously varies from person to person. Maybe instead of marrying your Big, you married your Aiden.

All I'm saying is that the majority of women have a man that comes in and out of her life, hurting her, using her blah blah....but for some reason, she lets him because something just clicks with him. That's her Big. Maybe you grew a pair and kicked him away for good - or for a long time at least. Women also have a good guy that they let go, that they didn't appreciate enough - "The one that got away" - their Aiden. Like I said, maybe you realized what was good for you and you picked him.

Everybody's a little different. Maybe you will always love the one that got away and wish it would've worked out, and will always have a Big in your life but hopefully you have enough sense to see him for what he really is......and maybe you just don't end up with either of them. You see, the thing about tv show and movies, aside from the fact that they are fictional, is that you never see what happens after it ends. Maybe a new guy comes into your life, a character that was never written, that does the sweeping you off your feet etc etc......who knows?