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"the biggest chance that we can take, is open arms and wide awake." - Goo Goo Dolls

Happy New Year!!!

Last January 1st I said "I am going to make this a good year" - well, it wasn't. So I won't say that this year. I will say that I'm going to find some good in every day and focus on that. Hopefully by the end of the year - or December 21st when it all ends - I can look back and say "this was a great year." Fingers crossed.

I made no real "resolutions" - I have a few goals I hope to work on/towards and that's it. Keeping it simple and realistic.

Anyways, on to the real reason you are tuned in right now.....the continuation of my dating adventure.

Well, I wasted no time. I had a date today - a very interesting/unusual one. I did the Polar Bear Plunge. That's basically where you run (or in my case - walk - ) 2 miles and the last I'd say half mile or so, you jump into 3 different swimming pools and run some more to the finish line. These pools are not heated...in fact.....they put ice in them. The were literally freezing. Maybe 35 degrees tops. I thought I was going to pass out, no joke. The last pool provides you with beer and medals......at the bottom of the pool of course. My date was nice enough to get my medal so I didn't have to go under because that really would've been the end of it. But as crazy as it is, it was really a lot of fun.

So, now for what I'm looking for, in case you might know someone who fits the bill. Let me start this with a disclaimer - I plan to be as politically correct yet honest as I can be here - I hope nobody is offended over anything I say.

The first and most important thing is religion. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" - 2 Corinthians 6:14. The Bible makes it very clear to be in relationships with other believers. I'm not picky about denominations or anything, just need a man who believes in God, prays, and does his best to live a good life. I'm not perfect, I slip a lot, but I just need someone who knows and shares what I'm about.

There is the general stuff: a job is key. That's just how it is. I have one, you should too. I have a car and insurance, you should too. Housing I'm not too particular about, as long as you have one (or apartment obviously). Now, if you live with your parents, well - I lived with mine until I was 24 so I would just have to hear the circumstances. I can work with it depending on what it is. Also, intelligence/common sense is always needed. I don't need a brain surgeon, but someone I can actually have an interesting conversation with and not feel bored is a great start. A sense of humor (that one is important - those who understand/speak sarcasm are probably the best in that category). I like to laugh.

Now this isn't a requirement, but someone in the medical field or someone who has some knowledge of that area is a big bonus. Just because that's what I know, live, breathe pretty much. It's nice to have someone who knows what I'm talking about, someone who could teach me something etc.

I don't have "a type" when it comes to physical attraction - I once dated a guy that I thought was "my type." He was like 6' 4" dark brown hair, tan, gorgeous. Worked out. Great dresser. Had a great job. Pretty much perfect on paper......he was a douche. That was when I decided I didn't have a type and I had to be more open minded.

The fact is, I have found myself attracted to all different types of men.

Now, red-heads are not my favorite - blame my first real boyfriend for that. For one, I'm just not generally attracted to them. Now, if it's a red/brown, I can maybe work with it. But no Carrot Tops please.

Be healthy - I am by no means "perfect" but I try to take care of myself and have been trying to improve a lot the last month or so - I don't mean you have to work out everyday and eat only organic foods - I eat junk a lot because it's yummy and I don't care. But have good hygiene and take care of yourself. If you are heavy and just sit around all day, I'm not interested. But if you are heavy and are seriously making changes to be more healthy, I can work with it. If you are skin and bones and don't attempt to get some muscles, I'm not interested. Don't need a muscle man, but need someone who could protect me haha. Basically, someone who works out at least a couple days a week like I do is a good start.

Height is another issue. It used to be a HUGE issue for me but I've mellowed out more over the years. I still prefer a guy to be at least my height (5' 8") or couple inches taller because I do sometimes where heels and I don't like that "I'm taller than him" feeling. It's just a self-conscious thing for me. Sorry.

I plan to date around. I'm not looking for a relationship right away, just looking to meet new people, have fun, and see where it goes. I'll just be honest, I'll probably date more than one guy at a time.

With that said, I will not be having sex. If something leads to a relationship then we'll cross that bridge at that time. I just wanted to be clear about this in case somebody is looking for that, they won't find it here. Or in case one guy is worried that while I'm dating him, I'm sleeping with another guy. No, I don't do that. Thanks.

That's about it. Feel free to message me with any questions, I think I covered it all though.